Henry Jack Tobias

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Henry Jack Tobias

March 11th, 1925 - March 28th, 2021

March 11th, 1925 - March 28th, 2021

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Henry J. Tobias was born in Paterson, New Jersey, on March 11, 1925, to Dora and Isadore Tobias, Eastern European immigrants who arrived at Ellis Island with 12 cents in hand and a desire to raise their family in a free country. They had two sons, Henry and Filbert, who between them had five children and earned five university degrees. Filbert predeceased Henry, who died on March 28, 2021. Henry's first love was music. He played drums with fellow Patersonite and guitarist Bucky Pitzarelli in the Catskills and other venues while still a teenager. However, at age 18, he answered the call to serve the Army; because he spoke several Continental languages, he was sent in with invasion forces through the European theater, liberating towns and camps. He neither spoke nor wrote of his wartime experiences, but they impacted his life insofar as, upon returning home, he resolved to study history. Thanks to the post-war GI bill, he completed a BA at Ohio State University before going on to obtain an MA at Yale and a PhD in Russian History at Stanford. Henry taught at Elmira College, the University of New Mexico, Kansas State University, and the University of Oklahoma, where he also served as chair of the History Department. He is the author of the The Jews in Oklahoma and A History of the Jews in New Mexico, among other books. Henry is survived by two daughters born to his first wife Suzanne Simons, Ann Tobias and Heidi Tobias, and by his third daughter Ruth Tobias, born to his second wife, Haven Bonnette Tobias. Both of his exes became his friends, while to his girls, he was the gentlest and most devoted of fathers, instilling them with his love for the arts-musical, visual, theatrical, and literary-and regaling them with the silliest jokes known to man. He could bellow as loud as a foghorn when he was mad, but his daughters all knew and know he was a softie at heart who would do anything he could to make them happy. He is also survived by two loving nieces, Cheryl and Rickie, as well as numerous friends, colleagues, and students who admired the depth and breadth of his knowledge, his good humor, and his dry wit. There will be no funeral, and family and close friends will memorialize him privately. If you wish to honor his memory, please make a contribution in his name to the charity of your choice.

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Rickie and Ruthie 1974
Henry and Heidi 1963
Henry, Ann and Heidi 1963
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Henry and Ruthie 1973 0r 1974
Published May 23rd, 2021
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Here is a pastiche of remembrances I received from friends and colleagues via emails - I gathered them together in a single document for Ann, Heidi and Ruth, and thought now I would post them here. From David Levine, student (UNM), (now resident in Africa): Oh, Haven! So many memories! He was so much more than a professor to me. He was a friend. He was an advisor. He was so tolerant of my brash politics. I can picture him in the classroom, in his office, touching baby Ruthie's little button of a nose and saying, "A noooose!" The cartoon he had framed on his office wall of the marchers carrying a long banner "LIBERTÉ" and coming to a fork in the road. Doing independant study with him. He was a mensch! From David again, posted on his FB page: One of the touchstones in my life passed away in his sleep last night at the fine old age of 96. Henry Tobias had been my Russian History professor at University of New Mexico back in the '60s. But he was so much more. He was an advisor, an advocate, a sounding board and moderator of my brash and naive politics, a father-figure, and he became a dear, dear friend. We stayed in touch for a decade or so, then corresponded less frequently. He was in assisted living in Albuquerque when I wrote him a multi-page letter a year or two ago. It's odd how one can be out of contact and yet he was still part of my life. Things he'd taught me -- important things -- had stayed with me through all these years. Thank you, Hank Tobias, for the teaching, for your patience, and simply for the time you gave me that made me feel like I was worthy of your time. David Levy (friend and OU colleague) I have been thinking about Henry a lot these days. Certainly every time my eye hits those drawings of Louis Brandeis and Albert Einstein which he gave me many years ago. He was quite a wonderful man. From Katie Barwick-Snell (friend and wife of colleague Dan Snell) He was such a wonderful mentor and friend to Dan. From Brit's mother, Linda Brittin Bradford: Deepest condolences Haven! I know those Thanksgiving get-togethers were special to Brit. I appreciate knowing more of Henry's history through your writing. He was a pleasure to know. From Roberta Sloan (friend and wife of Steve Sloan, Professor of Pol.Sci. OU) May his memory be blessing, and you and his daughters comforted...a truly gentle, brilliant, man. From Mary Jo Nye (friend, professor of the Hist. of Science, and wife of colleague Bob Nye) We have so many fond memories of good times with you in Norman, of football games and green chile in your living room, of Lesley and Ruth playing together at our houses, of your starting your law career in Oklahoma City, and of course, of Bob's and Henry's many conversations together in Dale Hall. A charcoal drawing that Henry did from a photograph of Thomas Mann hangs in Bob's study. From Robert Nye (friend and colleague) I would only add to your obit a few lines about his growing up speaking Yiddish and then using his Yiddish to do the book on the Bund in Russia, for which most of the documentation was Russian and Yiddish. And yes, he loved the arts, and was a bit of an artist himself.

Published April 25th, 2021
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Cheryl Zapien

When I finished grad school, I decided to take the time to revisit researching the history of the family. Uncle Hank had always been special, but starting at that point in time, our relationship grew. I remember clearly when we were discussing where the family was from. I distinctly remember thinking "Gee, what chutzpah. I'm arguing with a professor of Russian History!" But Uncle Hank listened and processed the information with me. What was most interesting was that his deep knowledge of the history of kings, princes and nations helped round out and give depth to the information I was digging up about the family. Pretty soon, I called just to share and say hi. It would not be an exaggeration to say that he was not only my uncle, but my mentor. After my dad died, he also became a bit of a father figure as well--something I deeply appreciated. I will miss you terribly Uncle Hank

Published April 27th, 2021
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Haven Tobias

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In the army in France WWII
Henry's birthday March 1964
Published April 25th, 2021
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