My beautiful baby brother, Samuel Reed Cooley, succumbed to his addiction and passed away peacefully on May 5th, 2020 at the age of 27. More than siblings, we were teammates through all that we endured together, our love sustained each other. I have always felt he saved me. Being Sam’s big sister gave me an outlet, something to hold dear and a sense of purpose throughout a turbulent childhood. Sam’s belief in my goodness and worth, having him look up to me, has made me who I am.
Over the past two years, Sam thrived in recovery and was able to reach his potential as his true self. He got fit and healthy, completed his college degree in Marketing, learned to drive, built a new community of friends in West Palm Beach, won employee of the month at a private aviation company where he worked, and even secured a new job set to start this summer. He was hopeful and positive about his future, and I will remember him as the most generous, silly, pure-hearted, and gregarious Yankee fan who always made me laugh.
I am eternally proud of who he is and what he overcame. It’s a massive challenge to recover from this addiction for any period of time, but Sam did, and I am so grateful he lived out his last years with courage and intention. Though my heart is shattered, I take comfort that we expressed our love to each other openly and frequently, and that we truly cherished every moment and memory.
Please share a memory or story of Sam below as well as upload any photos you have of my brother. No memory will be too big or too small – We are hoping to preserve the everyday snapshots and moments of his life. For those who do not have stories or memories, you can also offer sympathies, write a poem, share what Sam meant to you or express yourself any way you want. It would mean a lot to us to have these specific stories and memories from his friends and loved ones in writing.
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| Name | Samuel Cooley |
| Date of Birth | February 5th, 1993 |
| Date of Death | May 5th, 2020 |
| Home Town | New York, NY, US |
| In Memoriam Donation | Please donate to Young People in Recovery in Sam's honor (https://join.youngpeopleinrecovery.org/) or to Sam's NAMI page (https://donate.nami.org/Samuel-Cooley) |
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Dear Sam,
It's your birthday and we miss you! Although your life was way too short, you brought joy to more people than I can hope to do in my longer life. You spoke the truth with humor and kindness. And you continue to inspire us to keep working hard every day, against our obstacles. Thank you Sam, we love you.
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Lauren,
I cannot believe that I am just hearing this sad sad news of Sam’s passing. I taught both you and Sam at the Epiphany school many years ago! What great kids you were!!! Lauren you were truly idolized by Sam and were the best big sister. I have such fond memories of both of you! You were a strong girl back then and I know you will get through this somehow. Please know that I’m thinking of you and your dad.
Miss O’Connell Xo
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It's me again. I think of Sam every day and he is sorely missed at work. I know he is with us in our hearts and souls. He always made us smile. You are still with us even in spirit. Never to be forgotten.
Nancy Hatfield
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Thank you for your thoughts. It's comforting to know he had such good people in his life.
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Sam was the first sibling of a college friend I ever met when I was visiting NYC one summer. I was so excited to finally put a college friend's life into that kind of context, especially as many of us had been so far from our friends + family during the year. Lauren was so inclusive of Sam, which I very much appreciated as a younger sibling, and I could see that Sam looked at Lauren in the same way I always looked to my older sister. Though I only met him that one time, Sam's curiosity and genuine interest in each one of us was very memorable. I remember getting a Facebook friend request from him the very next day. Since then, I learned more about Sam through Lauren, who always talks about Sam with so much love and pride. I don't think I have seen Lauren in recent years without having Sam come up in conversation at some point. I'm learning more about Sam now, and I hope to continue learning more about him in the years to come.
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My memories of Sam are wrapped up in the family get-togethers in Cohoes. By the time Sam came along I was a young father with a busy family (as we all were). The wonderful trips to Cohoes were filled with lots of children who I recognized but never go to know well. Later as personalities emerged I began to know Sam and Lauren better.
Sam was quiet and kind, he often spoke to me in a way that pulled me into his family's life, so did Lauren. I appreciated that. During our long drives back to Trenton we would always included Michael, Sam, and Lauren in our conversations about family. We looked forward to seeing Sam at the picnics and weddings. I will miss him.
Sam's affectionate smiles, sincere hugs, and quiet manner are unforgettable. They are fondly etched into my memory. He used to greet us with a smile and a hug at all family gatherings, both public and private. One of my fondest memories is watching him come into the Cooley household on Manor Avenue and move about the room smiling, greeting, and hugging family members. After dinner, in appreciation for the meal, I liked to help wash the dishes and neaten up the kitchen. Sam would often come in and offer to help. While we chatted away the whole time, it gave me an opportunity to get to know what a respectful, honest, and loving personality he was developing. I wish we could have spent more time with him-perhaps in the future I can. The Bible likens death to sleep, so I hope to see him again when he is awakened.
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One of my favorite weekends of the year was our annual camping trip to Lake George. I'm still not sure Sam really enjoyed the whole tent outdoor thing but we camped out, played our annual miniature golf tournament and had a final morning breakfast in the same diner for over 10 years. The biggest problem with Sam was that he only ate Pizza, Salami and Hot Dogs ( there is no pizza at camp grounds), one year I brought the hot dogs to the table with chopped onion on the same plate, we then had a lengthy discussion about whether or not the onions touched the hot dogs. As I recall, I lost the argument and had to go back rinse the hot dogs and but them on a separate plate. Sam was a wonderful guy, I'll always be sad that he didn't have a chance to grow into the wonderful man he surely would have become
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I knew Sam through his loving sister, Lauren. I did not get to know Sam very well, but I could tell from when he spent time with our friend group that he was an extremely loving and kind person and that he had Lauren he a unique, and wonderful sibling relationship. He had a kind smile and I know he was a great brother to Lauren. You all are in my thoughts ❤️.
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I knew Sam through his loving sister, Lauren. I did not get to know Sam very well, but I could tell from when he spent time with our friend group that he was an extremely loving and kind person and that he and Lauren had a unique, and wonderful sibling relationship. He had a kind smile and I know he was a great brother to Lauren. You all are in my thoughts ❤️.
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It was such a wonderful time, reading through the memories that everyone has shared of Sam thus far. I had the pleasure of working with Sam for the last year+, and let me just say, he was always a bright spot in my day. Our location has a tendency to get a bit busy, and sometimes overwhelming, but Sam was ALWAYS there with an upbeat attitude, a smile, and ready to lend a hand with whatever was needed. He was a friend, colleague and wonderful soul. He will be missed greatly here, as his absence is already felt every day. My condolences to his family and friends, and anyone who was fortunate enough to meet him.
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My condolences, heart, and prayers for Michael and Lauren. Sam was an amazing brother and wonderful son. Throughout our Epiphany years I had so many experiences where I felt like I was apart of the Cooley family and hold close the memories with Lauren and Sam. He added fun and enjoyment to everyone around him. He often he had a big smile across his face and an infectious laugh.
Lauren, Sam and I would play a lot of board games like boggle, scattagories, clue, guess who. We also played basketball in their bedroom from all around the world, one on one with the other being the referee, and our favorite horse. Even though Sam was younger and shorter than us he would win more often then not He would shoot everywhere in the room using the black and white squares that was their rug. Sam was always wanting to be a part of hanging out with us. When Lauren and I would play with American Girl Dolls he wanted to be included he said he was like the dad and we would all play house with them. We played games outside like two square and tag. We took trips together to the Poconos and Fire Island. On the way to these places we would play hand games like numbers, I spy, stop the bus, and jam out to different songs. We would play, tag, manhunt, swing in the hammock once we were away. We always came up with creative ways to either play all men for themselves, play on teams, or take turns, or turn two player games into three. We all made sure if the three of us wanted to play we figured a way out. We went to games together: Liberty, Yankee, and Knicks. We would make posters, bring our gloves, scream and dance to get on the big fan screen. It worked a few times at the Garden watching the Liberty. We spent New Years Eve’s together both on 21st street and in stuy town. We would convince our parents to let us champagne toast with them. I remember the night spongebob came out we were all so excited to watch it. They first aired a marathon of episodes and we kept asking our parents just let us watch one more. I remember when Lauren and I were old enough to “babysit” Sam we would be so excited and hang out together on parent teacher conference night or other events for parents at Epiphany. Throughout all of our memories Sam loved to laugh, play, be included, and always added happiness to our playdates.
I remember how much Sam loved and looked up to Lauren growing up. She was always setting great examples for him and mentoring him. I remember him asking Lauren’s advice in life whether it was personal or in school. He always listened attentively and followed Lauren’s lead.
Sam’s infectious laugh, big heart, life of the room spirit will be missed by so many. May he rest in peace. My heart sinks and I tear up thinking about how he is no longer with us. I can look up and envision him smiling and think what a wonderful person he was and how was such a positive influence in so many people’s lives throughout his. I pray his memories and his life carry through everyone’s life that he touched as he watches over Lauren and Michael. Rest in peace Sam Cooley.
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I was so fortunate to have met Sam this past February. I am so saddened that it was the only opportunity I had to meet him. Over the short time we had spent over brunch, with Michael, Lorraine and a friend I was visiting, I could tell he was such a sweet and genuinely kind person. He was very interested in asking about us and getting to know us, which is not typical of many young people. Although my time with Sam was just a few hours it was in that time that I saw his kindness and his ability to connect to others on a deeper level that most people will never be able to do.
Michael, you obviously raised one very special young man who displayed so many of your talents and made it his own.
Lauren, siblings are gifts but good ones take a lot of work and love which you gave to Sam everyday.
My deepest and heartfelt sympathies to you both.
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I was looking through pictures of Sam and Lauren and found this one. They used to visit us in Boston and my children, Jill, Joe, Erin and Tim, and Sam and Lauren had such a good time together. They invented the most imaginative and fun games and activities and they just enjoyed being together. Sam went along with everything and anything. From the start, Sam was always....just fun.
Thank you Marcia. Sam and Lauren always looked forward to those summer visits. I was always grateful to you for doing that.
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The memory of Sam that will stick to me the most is our cousins thanksgiving football games. Sam would not let a thanksgiving go by without playing, even as we outgrew our grandparents yard he insisted on keeping the tradition. Sam certainly wasn’t the best, but was always the muddiest. Sam favorite thing was using trees to in some way help him, or at least try. For years to come I will always get a laugh out of him diving and juking like there was an nfl scout there.
Thanks Joe. Lauren and I were just saying he other day how much Sam liked traditions. One of my favorite photos is the one where you guys are playing football in the snow on Thanksgiving. I think it was 2005.
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I can't remember the first time I met Sam. Lauren has been my dearest friend since around the first or second grade, so he must have been 4 or so.
As I've been reflecting on Sam, I really regret not getting to know him better. It does make me sad—realizing that I've known his family for so long, and have shared such close memories with Lauren over the past two decades—that I didn't have more conversations with him. But no matter, he was cut from the same cloth as my best friend, and so I loved him. I will always remember him. He was kind, sweet, funny, and an impressive Yankee fan, that much I know. My memories of him wane after Lauren and I ended up at different high schools, but the ones I do recall are sweet. We were kids and things were simpler. Whether hanging out in Stuy Town, or visiting Oscar the doorman on our way to school, or at Baruch summer camp, he was always there and we were all happy together. He actually introduced me to Grand Theft Auto, haha. I walked into the apartment in Stuy Town and he was aggressively yelling at the tv, and I asked what the heck he was getting so worked up about, and he just replied that he was trying to steal this dude's car. Actually, my boyfriend recently taught me how to play Grand Theft Auto (I'm video game illiterate), and I thought about that moment and it made me laugh.
When I picture Sam I just see his boyish grin and him shaking his head about some joke that Lauren just cracked.
This picture is so dumb, but it was a fun night. We were having a photo shoot with Sam's hats. I remember him seeing this and asking, "Are those my hats?" with that grin, a gentle head shake, and maybe a slight eye roll.
Sam's left a huge hole in so many lives. Lauren and Michael, I am so sorry for his loss. He will be in my memories for years to come.
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So many great times with such a fantastic person- I really don’t know where to start. Every time I think about my time with Sam, my mind wanders back to a conversation we had recently, so that’s where I’ll begin.
We spoke about how far he had come over the past few years and how much further he intended on going. He made it clear that wherever life brought him, helping others was top priority.
He was gearing up for an exciting new career and seemed intent on entering this next phase with vigor and focus. His contagious positivity made me want to follow and watch him as he continued to succeed.
I am so fortunate to have had this conversation with him because it is the perfect way for him to be remembered. The energy he brought as we spoke is the complete portrayal of who was- Optimistic, Helpful, and Kind.
I’ll never forget when me, Sam and Brian went to Park 11, in Stuy, to play some Ball. We called next game and proceeded to watch the teams in front of us play. After a few minutes of spectating, I became certain of our victory. There was absolutely no way we would lose to either of the teams playing so I started talking some smack (mind you- I’m not a good basketball player, Sam was, though). Sam- Loyal as ever- started joking on them with me. Long story short, we played the winning team and lost 11-1. We were dead silent walking off the court until I looked at Sam and Brian and said, “Damn… We suck.” We broke out in laughter as they agreed. They then decided that I was no longer allowed to start smack talk.
These silly moments were inevitable when we got together. Whether we were battling on the basketball court or shooting the breeze on the East River, he never failed to bring a smile to my face and those around us.
I am so proud of the strides Sam made over the past few years. His progress will forever influence me in a positive way.
I love you endlessly my friend and I am absolutely heart-broken to see you go, but I know you’re in a more peaceful place.
Michael and Lauren, my heart weeps for you. Please know that I am here for whatever you need.
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Thank you Dennis. That's a funny memory I can picture Sam poking fun at you in his silly way.
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I had the pleasure of going to school with Sam starting at grammar school and remained friends throughout high school and beyond. Some of my fondest memories of Sam was hanging at plg 9 playing three point competition and wiffle ball at plg 10. Sam was such a kind friend and always went out of his way to say hello and catch up. Whenever talking with him you always had his undivided attention and knew he was really listening to you. Sam had such a big heart and was always the first to jump in to defend anyone who he thought needed some help. I will miss Sam’s big smile and even bigger heart. Until we meet again.
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For Sam
You’d meet us with a warm embrace
And a wide spread grin upon your face
That spark in your eye
That showed you liked to play
Our family trait and the Cooley way
At grandmas house, you’d play with the boys
Even back then you’d still share your toys
Seeing pictures of you show you kept the same smile
And you’d always sit down and chat for a while
You focused on people and listened intently
And even with strangers were pleasant and friendly
Such a kind person and loved to laugh
Despite life’s sometimes rocky path
Losing someone is a heartbreaking pain
And our big Cooley clan will not be the same
We wish we could have one last big hug
And hope you knew how much you are loved
From a shy little boy to a confident man
We will always miss our beloved Sam
-Karimah
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Thank you, Karimah, for this beautiful tribute. with love, Aunt Mary
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I would be hard-pressed to find a good memory of my time spent on the baseball diamond that didn't involve Sam Cooley. I will miss that famous Sam smile that I was lucky enough to receive every time I saw him. Gone far too soon-
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Sam was such a warm-hearted and funny guy, I really enjoyed meeting him when he came to visit Lauren during college and hanging together during graduation weekend. What really stood out to me during those times was how proud Lauren was of him and how much she liked to show him off to all of her friends. I have several pictures from this weekend of him just beaming. I know you both loved each other so much and I am heartbroken for your loss Lauren and yours, Mr. Cooley. Sam was so lucky to have both of you in his life and, of course, we are all lucky to have known Sam. Please know that you have a large community of people who are thinking of you constantly and are here to support you during this period if you need anything. Sending all my love and my deepest condolences.
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I always enjoyed Sam's company, he never let me forget that I was a traitor for moving to Boston even though my team allegences never changed! I hope he's in peace.
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I really wish I knew Sam Cooley better. After reading all these beautiful memories on this page, I feel jealous that you all knew him so well. I however, have known his loving sister Lauren since 2004. Although I didn't know Sam, I do know how much Lauren truly loved and cared for him. She couldn't speak about Sam without a smile on her face. She enjoyed going on trips with him, Yankees games and visiting him in FL. I met him briefly a few years ago and what I do remember is a truly sweet soul, soft spoken but super smart. He had the kind of face and energy that even if you didn't know him you felt like you could give him a hug.
Sam, your sister loves you forever and ever; we will take care of her I promise.
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Dearest Lauren what a beautiful tribute to Sam. I wish, with all of my heart, that you did not have and occasion to write it. Michael, I am so sorry. We only spoke on the phone briefly, but I knew you through your son's love. When I heard about Sam, my first reaction was deep sadness and then, immediately, my thoughts were of his family, because I know how close he was to you. As you know, Sam lived in my house in Florida. When he first came, we took a walk around the block and he told me that he was very homesick. He missed his friends, his dad and, most of all, his sister Lauren. Sam was such an unusual, special person. He had a beautiful smile and a quick wit. He had out-of-the-box views, that made it fun to debate with him, which we did often. He would jump to the defense of anyone being "kidded" (aka teased). He always had the "back" of the "underdog." One of the times that sticks out is that I remember him completing his vision board. Over the years I talked about that vision board. I was so impressed by his dedication when making it. Many months later he pointed out to me how the power of attraction worked. He had gotten all but one thing on his board, (a car) which, eventually, he did get and he let me know! When in meetings with the guys and me, Sam would take the opposite point of view and we would lovingly banter back and froth. As you know, Sam was kind and gentle-natured. He was the first to fill in the gratitude book that we kept at the house he lived in. He did not have to be reminded because he was filled with gratitude. He was very focused on making his sister and his dad proud of him. He understood that you loved him with no reservations and no conditions. He loved you the same. I know this because we spoke of you so often. (prob each time we spoke) So many of people never experience unconditional love. It is such is a rare and wonderful gift and you provided that for him. Once he asked me to help find a book for Lauren. He was very concerned to get the right gift. He sent me pics of PB restaurants and asked me what I thought of them. He wanted everything to be perfect for your visit. I explained that to you that the visit would be perfect no matter where you were. He tried so hard. He truly did. One day I said that he made me smile and he said that he said "Thats good. Smiles are contagious! and I bet that my smile made someone else smile!" I really enjoyed being around him. He took suggestions. We shared GIFS with one another. He was a joy. Most of all, you made him so happy and so proud and Lauren, he had many wonderful times because of you and your father. I am attaching a picture of him. I will think of him for the rest of my life. His memory will share the space in my heart that is reserved for the other amazing young men who Ioved but who lost their fight with addiction. I will remember him with love and I pray that, in your grief, you can find peace in your memories.
Lauren. I forget to add that when we texted recently he had not made amends with you on your visit. I took the liberty of telling him that you probably did not think he owed you an apology. He knew how much you loved him and told me that he wished you knew how beautiful you were. xoxo Kerry
Thanks Kerry. I think that was a while ago that he texted you that - he did make amends to me since then, although I may have cut him off to tell him I was not angry or hurt by him and he didn't need to apologize. I was never upset or disappointed, my only concern ever was his safety, happiness, and wellbeing. But yes, thanks for telling him that he definitely did not owe me an apology. I would appreciate the pictures and gratitude book also if you find them.
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I am sorry that I didn't get the chance to know Sam better personally. I remember some fun summer nights roaming around Stuy Town and the East Village during college, and I remember how easily he got along with anyone he met and how welcoming and good-natured he was.
But I feel like I knew so much more of him through Lauren. You two shared an amazing bond, and I know how much that relationship meant to both of you. We always talked about Sam when we would update each other on our lives -- what was new with him, how he was doing, the fun adventures you guys all shared on your trips and visits. You were so dedicated to making sure he felt loved, cared for, and supported no matter what was going on in either of your lives and I feel sure that he honored that love and held you in the most special place in his heart.
I am so so sorry for what you and your father are going through. I hope that in his memory you hold on to that part of your identity, as being the most amazing big sister. You two were so lucky to have had each other, and I am just heartbroken for your loss. Sending all my love.
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Hi, my name is Victoria and I was friends with your brother. I know whatever I am about to say about your brother is nothing new to you. I am from Staten Island so naturally him and I had a connection from that point on. We always said we spoke a different language than everyone else here in Florida and we sure did. We would always speak of bacon, egg and cheese sandwiches (salt, pepper and hot sauce) + an Arizona. He spoke of you often and asked me to go with him to go Christmas shopping for you. He told me how much you meant to him and I just wanted you to know that. We’d often discuss how much we miss NYC and the energy that can be found there among the many other conversations we shared. Your brother and I were friends initially because of Alcoholics Anonymous. He was committed to the program and he worked it so well. Sam lit up every room he entered, with his big smile and his sweet personality - everyone knew Sam. Everyone loved Sam. He was not only very influential but most of all he listened to whoever needed his ear and he’d sit with them for however long and he’d always be willing to help. I always told him that his heart was bigger than his body. He touched more hearts than anyone can count. He was undoubtedly taken away from us too soon, and he will be greatly missed by us all. Here in Florida and with my heavy heart . I am certain you’ve received your share of condolences. I am sure those messages will keep appearing every time another person recognizes the hole in your life that his loss has left you with. I also know no words will ever be enough. I am honored and blessed to have known your brother. He was truly a blessing in my life and I will miss him. I am deeply saddened by the news of your loss. I pray that God will grant you and your family strength. My most sincere condolences.
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I was scrolling through FB absentmindedly a few hours ago and I saw the news. Unbelievable. Sam Cooley
and I worked together at DT 8 or 9 years ago. I used to call him Young Samwise, which he had told me, with an air of being impressed, had been a nickname he had been given by other people before. I was a manager (I know, right?) and I always knew if I had Samwise on shift with me, I had nothing to worry about. He would do part time kinda seasonal type stints, and he'd hit me up and see if we were hiring, and every time he asked, I made it my mission to get him on my team again. Dude was great, rock solid, and the crew loved him every time he came back.
Beyond the job, he was a just a laid back cool dude. We shared a love for the Yankees and rapping (which is something I did regularly back then; again, I know, right?). We'd have goofy ciphers in the kitchen and his would always, ALWAYS, go "look, son, I got love in Brook-lun / huh, I let lead fly in Bed-Stuy" and then he'd wave his hands in the air n go "oooooohhhh" like the crowd was going absolutely bonkers losing their minds over some fire bars, and we'd all laugh.
I saw the post about his passing and I had to read it three times for it to sink in. I can't remember the last time I saw him or talked to him but I was damn near bawling when it sunk in. He was just that kind of guy. Deepest condolences to his family, and his close friends; I can only imagine how those who knew him better are feeling if it's been damn near a decade and I'm still bleary eyed typing this.
Rest easy, Samwise. See you on the other side
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My fondest memory of Sam came during a function in New York. We where sitting alone next to each other at a large round table. We both went up to the buffet line together and commented on how we’re going to eat the entire spread.
He started singing a relatively unheard of song that I happen to know as well. I took over singing the next few lines of the song slightly more passionately than he was singing. His eyes lit up with surprise and amusement that I knew the song. We took turns singing our duet for a few minutes correcting each other’s faulty lyrics and building enthusiasm as we went. We laughed and ate the entire buffet afterwards.
We brought up that moment and song a few other times as the years went by. Hearing it will always remind me of him.
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Thanks Tim, Lauren and I appreciate the memory. I'd be curious to know what the song is.
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Whenever I would see Sam around Stuytown or "the neighborhood", he was usually smiling and we would stop and have a conversation. He was kind, funny, smart and emulated many of the same characteristics as Lauren- just so naturally likeable. He was someone that made you feel at ease and it was always nice to see him around. The friendly encounters are something that I will always remember- a quick catch-up, a joke, and probably a comment or two about the Yankees :) I know that Sam will be missed dearly and his memory will always be cherished. I will think of Sam, his genuinely kind demeanor, happy disposition, and his smile. Sam's lovable character is a testament and reflection to his family. Sam and his family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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I’m sorry to say that I didn’t know Sam as well as I would have liked. What I do know is that Lauren loved him and I love Lauren. She was more than a big sister, she was a close friend to Sam. I didn’t have a relationship with my brothers like they did. She actually wanted him to come out and hang with her friends. Lauren is the most genuinely nice and sincere person I know, not to mention the funniest. Her laugh is infectious and her brother was no different. He had a calming presence - never took away anything, only added more to a conversation or party or any interaction.
I do remember one time in high school, we were out late downtown near Stuy town. Can’t even remember what we were doing or how long we stayed, but Sam and some of his friends and Lauren and her friends hung out on the benches in Stuy town park and just laughed the night away. I regret not getting to know Sam better when he was with us, but I look forward to keeping his memory alive and getting to know him more through Lauren - through her stories, her memories, and her love for him.
Thinking of Sam and thinking of Lauren, always.
All my love,
Egan
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I didn’t know Sam as well as I would have liked, but every time I saw him he lit up a room with his big bright smile and warm, friendly nature - a smile I could recognize a mile away because it was just as bright and beautiful as his sister's. Though I didn’t know him personally, we did have a lot in common. Both born-bred New Yorkers, both grew up as Yankees fans, and both idolize his sister Lauren, one of my best friends and the kindest, funniest, most bubbly person I know. It was clear that Sam adored Lauren and looked up to her. Though he was a bit shyer and quieter than his sister, you could tell by the way he looked at her and the way they interacted with one another how much he loved her. And vise versa. Lauren talked about Sam with such pride and happiness, and though she was often worried about her little brother, she had a strong faith in him. The love they have for one another and the incredible bond they shared will never be broken. I wish we all had more time with Sam, but I know he’s somewhere resting comfortably, rocking a Yankees hat, looking down on his sister and dad and smiling - the big friendly smile you could recognize a mile away.
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I knew Sam through his loving, devoted sister, Lauren. The pair always highlighted for me the beauty of having a sibling - the unconditional and deep bond that can only be shared between brothers and/or sisters. I have and will continue to admire their relationship and strive for the same unending love with my own siblings.
Sam was a genuine soul whose sincerity emanated from each interaction that I ever had with him. He cared to get to know Lauren's friends, asked us questions, was truly interested in what we had to say. I will always hold those memories close and keep his heart in mind especially when meeting new people.
Rest in peace, Sam - so much love and prayer forever heading your way.
Love,
Alex
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Dear Cooley family, JT and I are so sorry for your loss. We are both crew members that had the greatest pleasure of talking with Sam on the many van rides home. What a great way to end your work week , with Sams smile. He shared with us some of his hopes for the future. I always told him he deserved THE BEST. He was such a positive , kind spirit. To say that we will miss him is truly understated. RIP Sam. We love you. Linda and JT (NetJets)
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I am still shocked and saddened by the news of Sam’s passing.
I first met Sam during his job interview. His confidence, humor and all around good nature really impressed me so I hired him. Once onboard Sam quickly ingratiated himself with the team through his hard work and by being a great conversationalist. Whether we were slam busy or if there was an awkward silence in the room Sam’s positive attitude, wisecracks and/or inquisitive questions were always a jumpstart to bring the team’s spirit up. Sam later earned more recognition when he showed everyone he could “ball” at our end of season basketball game. Man, did he show out (Sam would want me to mention this).
I could honestly go on and on about my fond memories of Sam but the one that seems suitable was his closing statement in his job interview; “I’m going to make an impact and I plan on being the CEO of this company someday.” Although Sam didn’t get to be CEO he definitely made a lasting impact on me and the rest of his Signature Family. For that, Sam will always be remembered and sorely missed.
Rest in Peace Sam!
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Sam was one of my son's (David) best friends growing up and spent many hours with our family. There were countless play dates, overnights, outings and, of course, baseball (including that wonderful year that Mike and I got to coach together). We always considered him part of the family and his presence was almost always joyful. His was an infectious spirit, a marvelous sense of humor and, sometimes, a rugged determinism (which is the way he played baseball). When I heard the tragic news about his passing I was, for several days, flooded with memories all of which, in the face of profound sorrow, brought smiles and warmth and love. His life truly was a gift to all of us and he will be deeply missed. We grieve "with sighs to deep for words."
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I have only known Sam for a short time (a year plus), BUT, and it is a BIG but, his generous spirit remained with me from our first meeting. Sam drove me to my hotel upon leaving the West Palm Beach Airport and WOW....short drive, but I felt so GOOD after that ride. He was so very positive and enthusiastic about his job and wanting to learn more. I remember telling him he would go far as ATTITUDE is 99% and he certainly had that! I then worked with him a couple of times in West Palm Beach and Sam was ALWAYS the same. ALWAYS is key in customer service and I just felt that Sam had the ingredients needed.
I was so very sad to hear of his passing because the world could use about a million more SAMs. He will be missed. To his family, I offer my sincere sympathies and please know his young life was not in vain - HE MADE A DIFFERENCE!
Janell Lacoste
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I have known Sam for over 10 years but it was at distance. He was always kind, caring, with an easy going nature. I didn't know him as much as I would have liked. There were three instances that come to mind that really made an impression.
The first was with his cousin Jenene. We had gone out to dinner at Smoke. His uncle Bob and Jenene joined us for dinner. Sam was like a big brother to her. He was so thoughtful and protective of her. I was very impressed of how he made his younger cousin feel special and invited her to join his friends at a party. Sam really was a gentle soul who cared about others.
The second was his love and support of Iris. He had done everything he could to support his Mom during her difficult time. He stepped up courageously to a challenge that you hope most children will never face.
My most recent experience with Sam was the time we spent together in Florida a few months back in February. His Dad and I would meet him for breakfast or dinner. He was doing so well and looked terrific. Sam was in good shape and trying his best to move forward in his life. I was so proud of what he was able to accomplish in spite of the challenges he faced.
Sam had an easy way with people. They took to him right way. Even my sister and her friend Jan had breakfast with him before we left. Sam was pleasant and patient putting up with these older chics. What impressed me what an affinity all three of us had for him after that day. My sister and I wanted him to stay with us sometime and play golf with my nephew Mark. We were all excited about the new job in Minneapolis. So hopeful for a new beginning which he so much deserved.
My regret was that I didn't get to know him better. I certainly wanted to. He was a gentle, affable soul with a heart of gold. Sam, you will be missed more than you know.
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Sam was a great cousin for Janine, and I always appreciated his taking time with her. That night in NYC meant a lot to Janine, and to me, for his taking her out to see NY
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I was thinking of my dad's last Thanksgiving in Cohoes. My dad wouldn't have missed it for the world--he was thrilled to be teased about his pheasant sweater, and watch people spar over oyster dressing, and see the whole family in one place. The boys would come thundering through the living room, out the front door to play football or upstairs to play games. My dad was thrilled to be near that, too,but on one of the pass-throughs Sam stopped and stood in front of my father and said "Is this ok? For you?" He was only 10 or 11 at the time, but he waited until my dad smiled and said yes before chasing after the rest of the crew.
As a person in recovery, Sam's transformation in the last few years has been source of joy and hope. Even now, he remains an inspiration. He was so funny, gentle, and down-to-earth, and I send my deepest condolences to Lauren, Mike, and everyone who loved him.
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I only got to see Sam a handful of times a year, and I've always cherished those times. Sam's probably one of the naturally funniest people I've ever known, typically evidenced by the day after hanging out with him, having my face hurt from laughing so much. Sam was fiercely loyal, whether it be to his family or to even the smallest of arguments that we'd all blow way out of proportion. Thanksgiving has always been my favorite day of the year, and having Sam at my table is a large part of that.
I'll always love him, and I miss him a hell of a lot.
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I met Sam when he came to visit Lauren at college in California.
This was during a time when I tried to shed old anxieties along with my high school identity, and I wound up inviting new anxieties in. I was trying too hard to forget. During our first conversation, probably talking about the pros and cons of LA livin’ (both being experts as kids from the Tristate), Sam brought these old smiles and laughter to my face–the type of happiness that brings you back home. He reminded me who I was and to embrace that part of me. Every time after that, Sam always cut through all the noise by just being around him.
I remember asking Lauren quite frequently, ‘when’s Sam coming back?’ throughout my College years. I always made it a point to see him and catch up. Sam helped me grow during some of my most difficult years without knowing it. I hope he felt some what the same way because I owe him. Without him I would have felt lost.
I feel a little lost now. Even though it saddens me deeply, thinking of him gives me comfort.
Sam left an impact on me I will not forget.
My condolences Lauren, Michael, and Family.
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I am one of Sam's many cousins, and saw him at the annual Cooley Thanksgiving.
I don't have any specific memory of Sam that stands out to me. Instead, I have memories filled with smiles, laughter, and joy. Every time I can remember Sam, I can only remember a giant stupid grin on my face, and everyone around laughing. I remember Sam making everyone around him happier, because he was there. That's what I remember, and that's what I will miss.
Thanksgiving won't be the same. I, along with all of us, will miss him sorely.
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So sorry for your loss Lauren. I only met Sam briefly once but was lucky enough to witness the moment he met Dante. So nice to see the moving tributes and photos on here
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Sam was such a great and friendly guy. At the family Thanksgivings with 25 or more people over three generations Sam would always take the time to say Hi and to talk. Was always positive about what he was working at and interested in what everyone was doing.
One memory I have was a Facetime call that was misdialed. It was early in the morning and Sam obviously had someplace to be, but he greeted me with that big smile of his while walking in NYC, and was as interested in what was going on with me and his cousins as always.
Sam will always be missed.
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I don't remember the first time I met Sam Cooley, but I do remember his sister Lauren telling me about him not long after she and I became friends. I don't have siblings and didn't always understand sibling relationships, but what I could tell from Lauren was not only how much she loved Sam, but also how much she liked him, too. From the way she talked about him, I could tell they were very close, had been on many adventures together, and acted as a support system for each other. When I finally did meet Sam -- on one of his trips to Los Angeles to visit Lauren at Occidental -- I felt like we already knew each other. Same smile, same kind, gentle heart as Lauren. More shy than she was, I remember thinking, but few of us are that outgoing. Still, Sam was clearly very comfortable around her and he opened up to us quickly. I enjoyed getting to know him on those trips. We talked about the New York Yankees, who had either won or were on the verge of winning their first World Series title since 2000. I remember hanging out with him around campus while Lauren was in class and going out for tacos one night. But mostly I recall Sam telling me that he thought his sister seemed very happy at college, and that he was glad she had made so many friends. It occurred to me that even though she was the older sibling, and even though Los Angeles is a beautiful and fun place to visit, Sam had mostly made the journey to check on his big sister. I understood sibling relationships a little better after that. I'm very grateful to have met Sam not only because he was a good person, but because he played such an important role in his sister's life. To really know Lauren, you had to know Sam. And his spirit lives on inside her. My deepest condolences. - Dean
(PS: The picture is from another of Sam's trips to Los Angeles, this time in 2012 to celebrate Lauren's graduation from Oxy.)
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First I would like to send my deepest condolences to the Cooley family, I am in disbelief after hearing this news, Sam was a gentleman and well mannered always greeted me with a smile.
I have worked with Sam for the past 8 months One of our conversation was about the future and I told him strive for the best because us older folks won’t be around and the future is for the younger generation and his reply to that was I am working on things I was so proud of him and reading more about Sam today everyone was proud of him.
Sam you will be missed but will not be forgotten.
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I'm Sam's Aunt Mary. When Sam was little I would sometimes visit his family in Stuy Town, and seeing Sam playing with his friends in the park playground behind his building was always a delight. Sam was curious, a friendly but cautious NYC boy and he always had lots of friends. And he looked just like his mom. When Sam was 7 yrs old, I spent a few days with Mike,Iris, Lauren and Sam at the beach in Ocean City, MD. I especially remember Sam practicing his baseball technique. He would look just like Derek Jeter: his feet bouncing, his eyes blinking, poised over the plate, a ball of energy ready to swing and run. A consummate Yankee fan, in future years Sam frequently had a T-shirt or cap or hoodie proclaiming his love of the team. In later years, Sam and his dad frequently came to my house for Easter while Lauren was in Italy. In 2017, Sam didn't come. He stayed in NYC to be near his mom, to give her support because she was not well and was having difficulty. Sam was growing up and taking on life's responsibilities, and he was a devoted son. Since Sam has passed, I have been truly inspired by reading the tributes of his friends, family and colleagues. Sam gave himself fully, worked hard and received many of life's blessings. He endured pain and he also brought joy to many. Thank you, Sam for being a loving son, a wonderful brother , and a great nephew! Love you forever.
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Lauren and Michael,
I think it’s clear by the memories of Sam on this page that he was a uniquely incredible person. While I didn’t have the pleasure of knowing him well personally, I absolutely knew how special he was through Lauren. The bond and love you two shared was undeniable, and I am so sorry for your loss. I think we can all try to embrace a bit more of Sam Cooley’s spirit in ourselves. More joy, more curiosity in others, more empathy, more love. The world was lucky to have him, and I know he’ll continue to be remembered as the special person he was.
Lauren, I love you so much.
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Dear Sam,
We didn’t spend a lot of time together but I heard a lot about you. I selected this poem to share with your family named ¨I ask my mother to sing¨ by Li-Young Lee. I chose it since Lauren told me that she used to sing, probably you were lucky enough to see her perform. I also chose it because I hope you are somewhere in blooming nature, between tears and smiles with your mom, feeling a soft breeze in your faces. And because I know that sooner or later Lauren will reach you with the braveness of her voice.
Thank you for being your sister’s North Star. Here in Brooklyn we promise to help her keep the best memories of you, with joy and tenderness.
Abrazo grande,
Barbara, Dante & Clemi
She begins, and my grandmother joins her.
Mother and daughter sing like young girls.
If my father were alive, he would play
his accordion and sway like a boat.
I’ve never been in Peking, or the Summer Palace,
nor stood on the great Stone Boat to watch
the rain begin on Kuen Ming Lake, the picnickers
running away in the grass.
But I love to hear it sung;
how the waterlilies fill with rain until
they overturn, spilling water into water,
then rock back, and fill with more.
Both women have begun to cry.
But neither stops her song.
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Daryl and I have known Sam's parents since 1981, and we knew Sam almost since he was born. Although we have many memories, I have two favorite ones. The first, when Sam was about 3 or 4, was when he, his mother, Daryl and I went to a New York Knicks game. Sam, although so young, was extremely attentive to the game - the entire length of the game, a very, very long time for such a small child - and knew exactly when to cheer, and exactly what to cheer. His very little child's voice yelled out, "let's go, Knicks!", or "defense". It was absolutely adorable (sorry). Daryl and I were delighted, and so were all the people around us. Sam was so enthusiastic that the people around us actually started following him when he started his cheers. Go, Sam! It was fantastic.
The second memory that we have is just a few years later, when Sam was perhaps five, perhaps six, when he, Lauren, his parents and Daryl and I went to a Yankees (or as this Baltimore Orioles fan, and her Toronto Blue Jays fan husband would call them, "Skankees") game. One again, Sam was very attentive, the entire game. Daryl and I are extreme hard core sports fans, and Sam's parents fairly hardcore, too, so, although we were talking to one another and to Sam and Lauren, we were also paying fairly close attention to the game. In the seventh or eighth inning, the batter ended up walking. Sam piped up, "that's the first walk of the game". The adults all looked at each other in amazement, and, eventually, we agreed that Sam was right. Once again, sports child Sam led the adults. Go, Sam! We love you.
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Sam and I were both at Johnson & Wales together. We met in Xavier Hall Freshman year but then we were neighbors on America St. for the next two years. During the time we were in school together my mother moved to NYC, and happened to choose an apartment directly next to Sam's in Stuyvesant Town, which meant that we were constantly reunited post-JWU. I've walked by our flag-pole meeting-place every day this week and every day I sit down there and think of you and the wonderful times we had together.
During those two years of being neighbors, Sam and I along with Katherine, and Ryan (Buddha) quickly became what we eventually referred to as our "Prov-Fam" short for (Providence Family). We spent almost every hour outside of our classes together, nights, weekends, mornings. I personally never was close to my siblings, and college was a bit of an escape for me, so having Sam so close to me was truly a blessing. Every Sunday night we would have Family Dinners at one of our houses, rain or shine where we would all cook and spend time together. Some favorites were Ranch Chicken, Pulled Pork, Hamburgers on Hot Dog Buns, and what I think we referred to as Jail Food? I forget what that consisted of but it was something to do with Slim Jims and Doritos.
My favorite Christmas memory, to date (and likely forever), was spent with our Providence Family. We all bought each other gifts - I got Sam a shirt with a giant cat face on it, and Knicks hat - and I swear he wore that shirt every other day for the next year. That Christmas, there was so much love in that room between the four of us. Just best friends with not a worry in the world, just trying to figure out who the heck we were and loving each other in the mean time. My memories of Sam are this happy guy who just cares for and loves everyone around him. He's that protective friend who will know if you're not okay without asking, and then do whatever the hell it took to put a smile on your face. Anything you needed, he was there.
Many of my most cherished memories come from those two years where the four of us were attached at the hip. Our little family now has a giant gaping hole that will never be replaced, but you'll stay with us in our hearts and memories, Cam Sooley (a nickname we all grew quite attached to). I think of you every day and miss you dearly. I hope that you are in a happy place, and I thank you for having such a wonderful impact on who I am today.
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Lauren, I am so sorry for the loss of your brother. I still am in shock and disbelief, however, when I think of Sam, a smile comes to my face. Sam walked, talked and moved in a way that made him special. Every person he came in contact with would comment on his caring and loving demeanor. He was smart, funny and made you feel like the only person who existed. His eyes were happy and smile contagious, and you just wanted to be around him. He was smarter than his years and an old soul curious about everything in life. I loved this young man, and he will forever be in my prayers and never forgotten. I love you Sam to the moon and back! Thank you for your friendship. I miss you.
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Through the past 6 months I grew a lot closer to Sam and when I read the news I was shocked. We met at work but would always have a hilarious text strand. Sam always told me I had insane potential and that really stuck with me. As I read all these it really makes sense when people say Sam brought out the best in people. Every time I was feeling down about something he never failed to make me laugh and make me see the truly amazing parts about life. Our last texts were about heading to a cigar bar in boca once this was all over and I will visit it and have your favorite cigar For you bud! Truly one of the most amazing individuals I will ever have the pleasure of calling my friend. From our hour long ramp talks to our texts about who could lift more you will never be forgotten bud!
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When I think of Sam, I remember Thanksgivings in Cohoes with all the Cooleys gathered together in a small space with lots of laughter and happiness to see each other and with appreciation that we had such a large,fun family to spend a holiday with. As Grandpa Cooley would say, the driveway was full and that was a wonderful sight. Sam was always so fun and friendly even when cramped in the TV room with all the cousins. He laughed, he loved, and he meant so much to all of us. He will be very missed.
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My last memory with Sam is when I visited him in January 2020. He was a little annoyed with me since I bought the tickets impulsively and without really consulting him - typical older sister move I guess - but I was so sad to leave him during our Christmas visit and I wanted to visit again soon. That Saturday I convinced him to take a sick day from work and we went to the Florida State Fair together. Both of us made fun of the quintessential disgusting American state fair offerings like donut burgers and funnel cake burgers. We saw a pig race and wandered through some of the historical exhibits. After the state fair we saw the movie 1917 and ate at a restaurant called Grato which was eventful because we had to send back a mushy, overcooked pasta dish and we were both somewhat embarrassed. We ran out after paying and vowed to never go back to that restaurant. During that visit I also took him to hot yoga, which I think he actually liked more than he let on. We ate cheesecake from The Cheesecake Factory as was our tradition whenever I visited.
But, the memory of this visit that just flashed before me which sent a sharp pang through my heart is when we were wandering through all the booths at the State Fair and came upon a fudge maker. Sam and I were indulging in generous samples of the different fudge varieties when he started up a conversation with the booth owner. They were chatting away while I just continued browsing the flavors. I almost had to peel Sam from his conversation with this random stranger and Sam walked away with the guy's business card. Apparently the owner used to live in NYC too and was a chef prior to starting his own fudge shop. I don't know how Sam could engage strangers so well. Sometimes he did so in such an unabashed manner that I even felt slightly embarrassed. But he was just so genuinely interested in others' stories and in who they were that people would never shy away from interacting with him. Even in this short 10-minute span of time, I do remember feeling prideful that my brother is so cool and good-natured that he could even get an old fudge maker from the Florida State Fair to stop what he was doing and connect.
I am grateful for these memories, but in so much pain and sorrow that we will no longer be able to share these moments. I wish that Sam had been more honest with me and told me how he was struggling in the few weeks before his death. I would have done anything for him and would never have judged him or been disappointed. I told him many times that I would support him no matter what and that I would always be there for him. I know that deep down he knew that to be true, but it is hard to reconcile with the reality that he did not open up to me in this instance and that the outcome was fatal. I will hold Sam forever in my heart and pray for his soul every day.
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Dearest Cooley Family, I’d first like to start by giving you my deepest condolences for the loss of, Sam. I am in disbelief and so sad I truly don’t know how to process this. I had the pleasure of working with Sam at the airport. I remember his first day & most of all I remember is great smile. We worked different shifts but when he worked a mid shift, I was SO HAPPY because I loved Sam- we’d have lengthy conversations where he confided a lot. His kindness was overwhelming. I’m so very sad that I didn’t get to hug him goodbye before my furlough- he was on vacation and my furlough was last minute
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♥️My tribute was cut short, however I wanted to say...Rest in Heavenly peace my dearest, Sam♥️ You will be so incredibly missed...
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Sam was a really special person. He was funny, kind and he was a great listener. He listened in the most contemplative way, continuously asking questions. I would only see him a few times a year, since I live abroad, and whenever I saw Sam he would pick up conversations exactly where we left off.
When I think of Sam there are a few fond memories that come to mind.
One summer we were all hanging out in Kips Bay, I can’t really remember where exactly. Kelly and I were showing off trying to do a wheel pose (that yoga move when you bend backwards on your hands and feet). I must have twisted the wrong way, and literally felt like I threw my back out (I was 17). I hobbled over to my sister and asked if she would take me home, Sam immediately got up and offered to walk home with us. I remember being really bummed out that I had to leave the party but really happy that Sam decided to walk home with us.
Another summer I remember Sam was working at a Mexican restaurant, we spoke about it at a party and I told him how obsessed I was with guacamole. At another party Sam came through with a huge bag, and he handed it to me. He had brought me a full tub of guacamole and chips from his restaurant.
Last one, and one of my favorite memories of Sam. We were at Percy’s late one night, everyone had gone home so it was just the two of us. This guy came up to me and would not leave me alone, so Sam told him to go away, to which he replied, “do you know who I am?!” Sam said, “I don’t care who you are!” The guy proceeded to tell us, “I’m Jeru the Damaja!” I personally had no idea who he was, but Sam was elated. He got the bartender to print out a bunch of blank receipts, so he could get an autograph for himself, for Finn, and for another friend. When Percy’s closed he offered to buy us burritos, but we declined and went home. I lost my signed receipts, but I still think about how excited Sam was to meet him, and how his first instinct was to make sure he got autographs for his friends.
Sam was really special to so many people, and it’s obvious why. He was so thoughtful, always putting others before himself. It’s particularly difficult to lose somebody in such an isolating time. It’s hard for me to believe that I won’t see when I go home next, whether it’s bumping into him in the street, or seeing him at Finn’s house on Thanksgiving. My heart hurts for Sam and all who loved him, but the time the spent here with us was so special and will never be forgotten.
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Sam, we’ve shared so many memories together as young kids growing up in Stuy Town. From competing in a little game of H-O-R-S-E in yours and Lauren’s bedroom, to hanging out at Epiphany during after school, to witnessing the Yankees dominate the game of baseball in the 1990s, with the help our favorite player, DJ. May you rest peacefully; you are dearly missed. Until we meet again.
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I am at a loss for words. We may have grown apart since college but I was deeply saddened to hear of your passing. You were one of my first friends at JWU and always so much fun to be around. I constantly had a smile on my face when I was around you. You were always the biggest supporter of Henry and I and you predicted we would get married before we even started dating
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turns out you were right! So many good memories with you may you RIP Sam Cooley ❤❤❤
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I had the pleasure of working with Sam thru Signature Flight Support at the NetJets facility at PBIA. Some days we worked the same shift and other days we would pass each other at the time clock. The pilots sometimes talked about him in the van and would ask me how was doing. He was always friendly with the owners (passengers) when they got off their plane. He was so kind and if the owners were having a bad day Sam could always make them smile. Sam always had my back and got me out of a few jams on the ramp and I will always respect him for that. I feel for your loss and I will always remember Sam as the kind, gentle, caring person and coworker. He will be missed and always remembered.
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My fondest memories of Sam were when I was young, visiting him and Lauren in New York City and dressing up my brother Tim-or “Timothina”. What I’ll remember most is his easygoing, calm energy and approachable, genuine kindness. Whenever I saw him on Thanksgiving, or when I visited New York, he always showed genuine interest in my life and his chill, fun energy was something to envy. I never felt judged and always felt like he wanted me around. One night in particular when me, him, and Lauren were watching “Entourage” makes me smile. Growing up, I saw the unbreakable bond of siblings that Lauren and Sam shared- a strength and endurance that whenever tested, surpassed every challenge. The way Lauren talked about Sam made me so proud of the man he had become, and the way he was always there for Lauren was amazing. One thing I know for sure is that he was an amazing brother and family member. My heart breaks for Lauren, Michael, his family and friends-and I continue and will always have them in my hearts, thoughts, and be there when I am needed in the way Sam did (and made it look effortless). Lauren and I have especially been close and I want to say, I love you and appreciate you more than you know.
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Watching you two grow up during the years at Baruch summer camp was a treat. The way you interacted with each another as siblings is how I remembered it with my sister. You were both awesome in every aspect, shape and form growing up. Thank you for shifting me towards the field of education. <3
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Lauren and Michael,
I didn't know Sam very well, but as a friend of Lauren, I always knew how much they meant to each other just from how Lauren talked about him. The few times I met Sam, I noticed right away the quiet, easy way he had about him - a very calm and warm presence that was rare in a person his age (at the time, he would have been in his late teens and early twenties). From the stories I'm reading here from others, it was clear that Sam brought that same energy everywhere he went in life.
I always thought that the relationship that Lauren and Sam had, that bond and connection between siblings, was so special. I know the joy that Lauren and Sam brought to each other's lives. So, while I'm not religious, I want to leave here a Jewish saying: May Sam's memory be a blessing.
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I lived with Sam for a year in Florida and we became fast friends. Sam was a unique person. He knew how the world worked. He knew what motivated people. He knew how to make someone's day. Sam was a real person. I only knew Sam in his recovery period but at that time he didnt have one insincere bone in his entire body. But most of all Sam had a huge heart. He showed it in his every day actions. He showed it while mentoring younger kids in recovery. He showed it during interactions with the homeless on the street. He showed it it in how he treated everyone he interacted with. However he did not show his big heart during our frequent one on one basketball games. (Many of which I won.) But that was all just part of his persona. Sam was larger than life. That's probably why he cant be here with us anymore. I'll miss you bro.
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Naturally I have lots of stories about Sam, but I'll share two. When he was young, probably 6, I coached his soccer team even though I know pretty much nothing about the game. I don't think we won at all and after the last game some obnoxious parent came by and said something nasty like "it would have been nice if won a few games coach". Sam was near by and heard. He didn't say anything but he walked up to me and gave me this big intense hug so that I wouldn't feel bad. Thats when I knew my kid had a big heart.
The second story, also is about soccer. Now he was ten maybe. The play had stopped because there was a penalty on the field. Sam was standing about 15 feet away from the group of kids and all the sudden started running toward them and flattened this kid on the other team. Then he walked away raised his hand and said fouls on me. Everyone on the field was stunned. After the game the ref, who knew Sam well, asked me what was that about? He couldn't believe Sam would do something like that. Sam came walking by so we asked him. Sam looked at the ref and said "you didn't see it, but that kid kept kicking my teammate in the ankles and he already has two fouls so he couldn't defend himself." We both started to say, yeah but Sam......then ended with, ok I can see that. Thats when I knew my son was loyal and would stand up for what he thought was right.
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My heart breaks for Lauren and his dad who Sam leaves behind, and I'm grateful that he got to spend the past few years achieving goals and being healthy. I always looked forward to seeing and talking to Sam on Thanksgiving, family holidays, trips to New York, and even on sadder events that brought family together. He always showed a genuine interest in everyone and was so easy to be around. I'll always remember his friendliness and integrity.
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I am so sorry to hear about Sam. I will always cherish my time with Sam. He truly was a sweetheart and cared for everyone around him especially his family. His chuckle and smile could fill any room. He will be remembered fondly by many.
Thank you Samantha. I know you made his time at JWU a lot more special to him.
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Sam rented a room from us for the past year. Before he moved in he was honest with us about his past and everything he was going through. Just talking with him that first time we met I could just see that he was a good dude. Over the next year he proved to be just that. Every time I spoke with him he always had good things to say about what he was up to. He would share with me his journey he was on to get healthy and tell me about all the new things he was trying to cook and learn about. Some of the stories he would share were pretty funny. And he was Always willing to help around the house. Most Of the time he would just offer to help. Whether it was something as simple as letting in the cable guy to fix some thing or helping move some tree clippings to the front curb for garbage day. He was always willing to lend a hand.
I'm very sad to hear of Sam's passing. I'm shocked really. He seem to be doing so well before he moved out. He had shared with me that he had gotten a new job that he was going to be starting in a few weeks and he was really excited about it because he was going to get to move and start fresh in a new state with a big raise. I'm so very sad to hear about his passing. He really was a good dude.
My sympathy and love to his family.
Thank you. The last time I was there in February he gave me a tour of the house. He spoke very highly of you as well.
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I met Sam on the basketball court a couple of years ago. He was by far not the biggest guy out there but he was the one with the biggest heart. He was always trying to hype the other players up and his charisma somehow always motivated me to play better.
We became friends and found out we were in South Florida for the same reason. With neither of us being from here we found a common bond and grew closer. Sam was a person who's opinion I valued and could trust. He would always give it to you straight, but in a friendly type of way.
I looked forward to seeing him each week on the court and would reach out to him when he didn't come. He would do the same for me.
I didn't get to say goodbye to Sam but I somehow feel like he would have wanted it that way. A lot of times when we would play basketball he would sneak out of the gym to leave without saying anything. The next week I would always ask him why he didn't say goodbye. I guess life isn't any different. I won't say goodbye now Sam, but until we meet again. You will live on in each one of the lives you touched and will always be remembered.
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I love you Sam! I'll never forget the first time I met you. It was my first trip to New York and I stayed with you and Lauren. You were so cool and kind and you made us all laugh so much. Lauren was so proud to have you around, which isn't always common with siblings. I always loved your relationship because you both cared for each other so much. You are so special and I'll never forget you. I love you all!
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I believe that you are not truly gone until your name is spoken out loud for the last time and I’m confident that we will all keep your legacy alive as long as we are. I wish I could have one more time of laughs and craziness in you and Ryan’s federal hill apartment.. we had a group video chat exchanging stories about you and there were so many stories exchanged of you impacting people’s lives In a positive way. Until we meet again my friend .. I love you
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Dear Sam,
It’s an odd life growing up an only child in a family that holds 17 cousins total. I will always cherish and remember our childhood and teenage years fondly. In many ways you felt a lot like a brother to me.
Every summer for many years we would go up to Lake George to go camping with my dad, Uncle Mike and Lauren. Even though I think over the years I enjoyed the outdoor camping experience more than you. I had always been happy we were able to to keep that tradition up as long as we did.
Every Easter we would make our way up to Cohoes to grandmas house and spend a few days trying to find where the chocolate eggs were hidden. Later in the year, every year we’d go back to grandmas for the annual Cooley Thanksgiving get together where we frequently were able to get almost the whole Cooley family together under one roof.
There were a few times where I came to visit you in New York City and we would play video games, play basketball, go to Yankees games and explore some of the city together. Your authentic and extremely boisterous self was always a joy to be around. To me you were the biggest embodiment of what a true New Yorker is. You would come to the defense of people talking trash about the god awful Knicks or anyone claiming that good pizza existed anywhere else other than the city of New York.
Although life took us apart over the last couple years I’m so incredibly saddened and shocked that you’re gone. I’m so proud that you were able to overcome the brutal battle you had faced over the last two years and I wish that I could’ve done more to help and see and talk to you more. 27 years was not nearly enough time for Sam Cooley to be on this earth. Love you cuz.
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Sam Cooley,
You were my best friend's forever best friend, her brother, her world
When I met first met you, you knowingly laughed at us for being ridiculous college girls
But it was clear that behind your smile and chuckles, you knew
You knew that your sister's love for you was through and through
In you, I watched a quiet confidence grow
Off to college soon where the seeds of your brilliance you would sow
At Johnson & Wales now, you joked with me that Providence was small and uncool
For you grew up a New Yorker, a city kid with a heart of gold
At the Mets game with your mom, it was clear she cherished you too
She asked to trade seats with me, to sit closer near you
You were her sweet baby boy, now a beautiful young man
You stood by her and stayed strong. Of your resilience, I was always a fan
Despite the hardship, you remained gentle and kind
We messaged back and forth about Lauren and how you admired her mind
She was always in your corner, and your dad your best supporter
Lauren bragged about how proud she was of the man you were, what you overcame, and all that you taught her
You have left us now but it isn't goodbye
It is see you soon sweet Sam and your beautiful brown eyes
For our favorite guy is now in the sky
But we know you're at peace. You are back with your mom
You're listening to hip hop, bobbing your head to each song
Once you are settled, send a sign along
A Biggie Smalls throwback or a Yankees win will do
We love you forever and we will always miss you <3333
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