K C Toh

Facebook has asked me this evening, “What is on my mind?” Well, I learnt yesterday that one of my oldest, dearest friends in Malaysia has passed away. What compounds the sense of loss are feelings of profound regret. Regret brought about by faulty thinking. Thinking that we’ll always have time to catch up with friends, that we can put off that rendezvous until things are more “settled” that we can celebrate together once that “next deal” is closed….or the next time I’m in town. Yet, as the years roll by friends continue to become items on a to-do list and then those same friends all too suddenly become nothing more than Memories…and it is devastating to realise I sacrificed those connections, those relationships, those friendships for an abstract idea of what the future may hold. So to my friends who are reading this, my advice, as cliché as it may sound, is to embrace those closest to you, pay attention to the people in your life who resonate with you, engage with those who you admire, surround yourself with those who you respect and immerse your self in the relationships of people you love. My dearest friend KC Toh passed away 2 years ago… yet I had no idea. And Today, I miss him dearly. I miss our banter. I miss our culinary adventures. I miss your intellect, your endearing yet unabashed hypocrisy, ( a young earth physicist ) your generosity of spirit and most of all your sincere and unconditional friendship. I loved you KC. Vale “Mr Toh uh”