Derek Stanley Jenkins

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David Jenkins-Handy

Derek Stanley Jenkins

19 juin 1930 - 24 mars 2020

19 juin 1930 - 24 mars 2020

Derek Stanley Jenkins was born in the middle years between the two World Wars. The world, in 1930, was still reeling from the loss of life from WW1 and the Spanish Flu. Britain was united in its constituent parts but riven by class conflict. We mostly remember the 1930s for the Great Depression. Life in London was, however, generally improving thanks to better living standards and falling prices. Unfortunately, the rise of Fascism and far right ideologies led to militarisation and conflict that saw industrialised warfare return to Europe. So, Dad's boyhood was inevitably very mixed. A childhood home in the heart of London when it was very much a mixed economy filled with traffic in the canals and on the streets; homes heated by coal, smoke endlessly escalating into the sky (1931 was full of storms and 1933 was one of the hottest summers on record, while the end of August 1936 saw an extraordinary sweep from very low to high temperatures on a single day). Knowing Dad, he would have been playing in the streets, leading some mischief and mayhem, playing pranks, swinging a stick as a sword, or kicking a football. None of this explains the delight that he took in later life in classical music and art. From all that I recall of conversations with Nan, Dad appears to have been bold and energetic right from the start. That didn't stop him from tempering his activities with care: after WW2 he was called up for national service joining Second Para refusing to continue beyond his allotted time in the army, which would have allowed him to go to Korea, thus avoiding an extension of service that he felt he would not have wanted. Instead he eventually joined the Territorials' REME and settled into civilian life working in an engineering workshop adjacent to Old Street as a blacksmith/riveter/engineer. Pictures of Dad from the 1950s show a handsome young man in his prime (before he broke his nose boxing). This is the decade of transition from a war footing to peace and the opening of an age of relative health and wealth, with the creation of the NHS and the Welfare State, and with the advent of commercial flights for holidays and business increasingly targeting a broad audience; by the 1960s a 'package holiday' to Spain had become a thing. The end of the 50s and the 60s also saw Dad's marriage (to the pretty young Sylvia Sait) and the arrival to this world of his three children: Keith, Julie and then, an accident, David! Dad had ambitions to move to New Zealand but decided that the family would thrive better living in London. So, we lived in a flat in Sutton Dwellings, tenement buildings that still stand as a monument to the gentrification of that part of London in the 1980s. By this point in time, Dad had started working in Her Majesty's Stationary Office in High Holborn, supplementing his salary with work on the print at night manhandling newspapers, which must have been a gruelling experience, made harder when we moved to Loughton and he faced a 50 minute commute back into London from Essex. The family moved to No. 46 Monksgrove, Loughton, on Oakwood Hill Estate, in 1973. A funny box of a place, we had jumped the GLC queue by moving into a wonderfully rambling and decrepit house (8 Napier Grove) just one street away from Nan, Grandad, Barbara, Charlie, and Gillian. The house was due for demolition as part of the ongoing renovations in that part of London. We had five years at the house in Napier Grove, which Dad was firmly convinced was only held together by the wallpaper he had put up. We children had survived the three-day week and blackouts in the basement, but had no real idea of the pressure this was placing on our parents. Dad must have found this an intensely worrying time as did most parents of young children. Strikes seemed more usual at this time and seemed to be part of the rhythm of that particular zeitgeist. Over the years, we three children gradually left home; Dad and Mum's life changed and home became a refuge at Christmas and Easter when we all came together. It also meant that Dad and Mum could start to take advantage of holiday's abroad: Dad spoke with relish of eating and drinking in Yugoslavia and Bulgaria, where food and drink were very good but inexpensive. The years rolled by to Dad's retirement, during which time he lost and gained weight, cycled, played badminton, and, reluctantly, gave up both his service in the 'Terries' and his much loved Sunday football playing for 'Gordon'. Along the way he made, and kept, many good friends: Georgie Bevan, Arthur Lawes and many, many more. Dad's retirement allowed him to take up new pursuits. He joined Loughton bowling club serving many years as a member and as a team captain being victorious as an individual and with his team. Always a reader of adventure and action novels, he continued to expand his collection of books and a video library (focussed on John Wayne, Errol Flynn and the James Bond movies) eventually replaced by DVDs. Sadly, he was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes, which curtailed his long love affair with food and drink. His passion had been such that he had spent many happy hours making homemade wine from kits; the success of his Orange wine was only countered by the fact that it could take varnish off a table top. Eventually, Dad succumbed to Alzheimers, which made the last decade of his life increasingly difficult for those around him. Olivia, his granddaughter, recalls with acute embarrassment a time on the underground with Grandad in his wheelchair pulling on the sleeve of a stranger saying "Do you know it?" Then singing hoarsely, "Enjoy yourself, it's later than you think..." His life was long and rich in so many ways. Perhaps this is his lasting chorus to us all. So from Dad to me to you, enjoy yourself, enjoy yourself, enjoy yourself.

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Rebecca Jenkins-Handy

Derek was just about retiring when I met him. I used to listen to his tales of work, cooking breakfasts for his work colleagues being one of his favourites. I think at work, as at home, Derek saw his mission in life was to look after everyone, making sure everyone was well fed and having fun. In retirement he threw himself into golf, bowling and took up a woodwork class for a time, before he was unable to manage these as his illness progressed. Derek always loved a good debate, and family visits would often have a lively 'discussion' usually about a period in history, or politics of the day, both passions' of Derek. I remember with fondness how he would throw himself into games at Christmas, always a good sport. Another of Derek's loves was music, he had a broad taste, but right to the last he would ask the kids if they remembered Benny Goodman, Artie Shaw and Tommy Dorsey, It was nice that Gabriel was able to play him a few tunes on his trumpet the last time we saw him at home. Derek was big personality, with a big heart, and lived a long and life, well- lived. With much love to all the family at this time.

Publié 6 avril 2020
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David Jenkins-Handy

One question that came from Doris. She was not aware that Dad's middle name is Stanley. Does anyone know why he was given this as a middle name? It is not one of the family names. Charlie, his brother, is Charles Arthur, both of which are names that appear as family names in previous generations.

Publié 1 avril 2020
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Carol and Stephen Smith

Uncle Derek was such a warm and welcoming person with his larger than life stories. My Dad, Stan, enjoyed so much playing golf with Derek for many years and experienced his 'competitive streak' on many occasions. Condolences to Auntie Sylvie and Keith, Julie and David. Thinking of you all Love Carol and Steve xx

Publié 31 mars 2020
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David Jenkins-Handy

Dad and I made several trips together, over the years, going to holiday camps on the East Anglian and South Coasts. My first recollections are travelling in our old Thames van, which always smelt slightly of exhaust fumes in the front; a leaden, heavy, perfume, which I am sure would have been dangerous if the car hadn't poured in air from the road as well. On one occasion we stopped the car while travelling through Kent on the A3 (I think) going to the coast. Dad pulled over into a parking place amongst a large cluster of trees. We unwrapped our sandwiches (actually hunks of French stick with bright pink tinned salmon and crispy green transparent cucumber) pulling off the tin-foil. Waiting for a pause in traffic, Dad took me over the road. We had stopped by Leeds Castle. A summit or conference had gone on there and Dad thought it would be interesting to see. We couldn't get close, but looked across a golf course to through parkland to the Castle, chatting and munching away. On another occasion, Dad and I were travelling up to Great Yarmouth in his mustard-coloured Austin Allegro, listening to one of Keith's tapes in the car. Always funny, a bizarre combination of music, comedy sketches, and Keith's own interjections (memorably pranking Gillian, catching her out twice in one holiday!) while we rumbled on a country road that Dad said was the old A12. I think I was about 15. After an hour or so travelling with the car bursting at the seams with luggage, in blissfully hot weather with the windows down, we stopped by low building advertising itself as a pub (on a very, very domestic scale). We parked at the side of the road and walked through a stable door, ducking our heads and went into a low side room, which had a couple of up-ended barrels with planks on that served as a bar, but not a seat in sight. Resting on stands behind the 'bar' were two barrels with taps in. An elderly lady opened a tap at Dad's request ("Two pints, please" while pointing) and poured two pints of red-gold beer. We took our glasses covered in a frost of condensation. We sat in silence drinking down the hoppy liquid; I felt like the holiday had really begun, What an amazing introduction to Real Ale! I think that Tolly Cobbold or Ridleys was the name on the barrel. Dad had established a small, lifelong, love affair for me with cask ales.

Publié 5 avril 2020
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David Jenkins-Handy

DEREK IS MY UNCLE. I SAY IS BECAUSE FOR ME HE HAS ALWAYS BEEN AND WILL ALWAYS BE MY UNCLE. HE WAS A JOKER AND LOVED PRACTICAL JOKES, NOBODY WAS SAFE BUT HIS ANTICS WERE ALWAYS GUARANTEED TO BRING A SMILE TO YOUR FACE EXCEPT FOR MY MUM, BARBARA. WE ALWAYS HAD BIG FAMILY GATHERINGS AT XMAS AND ONE TIME HE MIXED MY MUM A DRINK, FULL OF ALCOHOL AND TOLD HER IT WAS A FRUIT JUICE. BECAUSE SHE HAD BEEN DANCING SHE WAS VERY HOT AND DRANK IT STRAIGHT DOWN, OH DEAR WAS SHE ILL THINK IT TOOK HER ABOUT 4 DAYS TO RECOVER. VERY SPORTY ESPECIALLY FOOTBALL, YOU WOULD FIND HIM MOST SUNDAYS ON HACKNEY MARSHES PLAYING FOR A LOCAL FOOTBALL TEAM WHICH WAS A VERY COMMON THING IN THE EAST END, USUALLY ATTACHED TO A PUB. OFTEN ON A SATURDAY HE WOULD GO TO A PROFESSIONAL FOOTBALL MATCH WITH MY DAD, HIS BROTHER, AND THEIR DAD. JUST RECENTLY MY DAD SAID HE WANTED TO SEE DEREK SO I TOOK HIM TO SEE HIM. WE HAD A LOVELY AFTERNOON TOGETHER WITH SYLVIE & KEITH. ALTHOUGH HIS MEMORY WAS NOT VERY GOOD HE KNEW US AND WE TALKED ABOUT FAMILY AND OLD TIMES AND EVEN SANG SONGS TOGETHER. IT WAS SO IMPORTANT FOR MY DAD AS IT WAS THE LAST TIME WE SAW HIM. MEMORIES LIVE ON AND WHILE WE HAVE HIM IN OUR HEARTS AND MINDS HE WILL NEVER BE GONE. This was written by Doris, Dad's niece.

Publié 31 mars 2020
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Catherine Lane

Uncle Derek was a really warm person, a real character. He always made you feel welcome & loved to share a joke. I just remember growing up was special at the Jenkins house, a real laugh & we had such great family times together. Uncle was right in the middle of it. I'm beyond sad that this day has come, my heart is with you all. Much love from us all. Alex, Catherine, Sam, Ben & Ejiro, Izzie & Daniel. Xxxx

Publié 31 mars 2020
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